When Things Don't Go Right, Goes Left

As a young boy I have faced a lot of bullying, sometimes from some naughty friends and sometimes from my own cousins as I have a huge family and I was the youngest amongst them at that time but this doesn't mean that they didn't love me, they did but they use to make fun of me and the most irritating part was that they used to ask me to fetch water for them in every gathering, telling me that it will add to my good deeds and God will reward me for it. I never said no to them as I was a shy little boy but as time passed and I grew a bit old around 14-15 I started to get more and more irritated by them asking me to fetch water and soft drinks for them at family gatherings and making fun of me.

Then one day I realised that things are getting weird as I was not a little boy anymore and this has to stop now. So I started to ignore them at family gatherings and if any of them would ask me to fetch anything for them I would just vanish from their sight and never comeback with whatever they asked for. I continued this practice for sometime and felt the difference, then they rarely asked me to bring anything for them now what's left was the “making fun of me part” so I actually started to make fun of them in front of other people. I use to make jokes on them and intentionally humiliate them in front of other people because at that time the only way I could have saved myself for bullying was to become a bully myself but this doesn't mean that I support bullying, I am totally against bullying of any kind but at that time I guess that was the only option I had. With me bullying them the jokes on me stopped completely and since then things are quite good and even my relation with my cousins has improved a lot and is based on mutual respect.

When I started to stand up for myself my confidence also increased. Standing up for myself actually helped me gain confidence and believe in myself which proved significant in dealing with difficult problems. I did the same thing which I was offended by to help myself get rid of it. Always remember one thing that if you don't stand up for yourself no one will and Sydney Smith said “heaven never helps the men who will not act.”

Miracles Do Happen....Stay Hopeful, Stay Positive

Sometimes we want something very badly and we get it without putting in much effort. I am talking about miracles. Yes, miracles do happen. I would like so share my personal experience on this. When I was in 7th standard a new girl got enrolled in my class and I had a huge crush on her in just one glance.

Weeks and months passed by and I wasn't able to talk to her. I badly wanted to talk to her and be friends with her. Our class teacher was responsible for the seating arrangement, she always made sure that no naughty friends sit next to each other in the class. One day out of desperation to talk to that girl I prayed to God that I wish our teacher makes that girl sit next to me in the class and guess what? Miraculously the teacher did so that very day. When she entered the class she saw me sitting next to my friend and she asked that girl to move next to me and relocated my friend from there. I was stunned and my heart was filled with happiness as this was the moment I had been waiting for. My crush was actually sitting next to me and on top of that she initiated the conversation and I was over the moon. In a few days we became good friends and as time passed by within a span of a year we became best friends. I thought I fell in love with her but it wasn't the case as it was only a crush and I discovered that I actually loved someone else. Our friendship lasted for five years until it ended in 2007 due to some personal reasons.

I always cherished the time I shared with her and those moments were very special for me. What I mean to say is that there are times when we desire something from the bottom of our heart but we hesitate to reach out for it due to lack to confidence or whatever reasons but then surprisingly we get it without much struggle. So if you desire something and are still waiting for it then don't loose hope and stay positive maybe a miracle is waiting for you and out of nowhere your desire will be fulfilled. We never know what time has in store for us. Keep dreaming, keep going.

We Are All Being Judged

The most common problem that we face today which holds us back from doing what we want or following out heart is that we are all afraid of being judged. The fear of being judged is a thing that we all go through in our daily life and this kills a lot of dreams on a daily basis. In order to achieve success or follow our heart this is the most important thing we need to get rid of. If one wants to follow his/her heart then he/she should do so without fearing anyone or anything. One can never achieve success or taste failure if he/she constantly feels the pressure of being judged.

We criticize people who judge others but this is something we also do regularly. If you want to start to do something than just listen to yourself and start. I attended a creativity conference last year where we were told by the instructor to draw apples for sixty seconds, the shape of every apple shall be different from the other and nobody will judge what your are doing as nobody was allowed to look at what others were doing. In those 60 seconds the attendants of that conference drew hundreds of different shapes of apple with some even drawing an apple iPhone,writing A for Apple and even an apple falling from the tree on Newton's head. People were able to be creative when there was no fear of being judged. At that time I realized that if we eliminate the fear of being judged from our mind then productivity can also increase. We become our own enemies and kill our creativity by fearing the judgement of others. We must liberate our mind and be free if we really want to achieve something in life. I can surely say that none of us like to be judged yet we judge others. Even if we don't like what someone is doing at least we can boost their confidence by appreciating their efforts instead of passing negative remarks and shake their confidence which can be very hurtful for them. Getting rid of the fear of being judged and listening to our heart can impact our lives in a positive way and make it a lot better.

Life won't be there forever so instead of getting demotivated by the demon of judgement of others we must do what is actually required in order to live a better life and fulfill our dreams. We only live once so why not live like the way we want to live instead of being driven by the opinions of others as we all have different thinking and emotions. We should learn to respect the thinking and feelings of every individual because what's not important for one can mean the world for the other. By stop judging and eliminating the fear of being judged we can make a difference in our society and make this world a better place to live.   

It Starts With The Fear Of Failure

I have created this blog to share my experience of life and my experiments to deal with the problems of life. One of the biggest problems of life is the fear of failure, right now as I start this blog there is a fear in my mind that may be I won't be able to attract much readers or may be this blog will fail miserably. Hundreds of negative thoughts are going through my mind. The mind is full of ideas but as I sit here in front of the keyboard the mind goes blank because of the fear of failure but the most important thing is that even if I fail at blogging there is nothing to loose but a lot to learn. I can learn what the people like and what they don't, I can learn to improve my writing skills and I can learn how to tell what I actually want to tell or explain in a better way. 

As I type further the fear starts to go away and I am thinking that may be it's not going to be that bad, may be I won't fail and even become a successful blogger. Everything that we do depends totally on our perception and the way we think. If we have a positive attitude towards life and what we do then we are most likely to succeed at it and if we are demoralized and think negatively then failure is probable. Failure actually teaches us what  success doesn't, it teaches us the real worth of success and humility. Failing at something is not the end it's only the beginning of a betterment, for instance if a student fails in an exam that is not the end of the world for him, there is always a chance of doing better or if someones relationship fails then it never means that that person should never get into a relationship again. Failure is an undeniable part of life and the best teacher.

It is very commonly said that "failure is not an option" well in my opinion failure is an option because like it is important to succeed it is also important to fail at something. Failure somehow makes us a better person and brings out the best in us and it's OK to fail and just let go because sometimes failure also teaches us that the thing which we were trying to succeed at was never really that important to put so much effort into. Till now in my life failure has played a viral role in order to achieve success. As this blog post is coming to an end the fear of failure in my mind has reduced and it is being replaced by a hope of succeeding but it does't mean that I will succeed may be I would still fail but that's a part of life. We start with the fear of failure and after working hard there are high hopes of succeeding but sometimes we still fail but failure is not the end, it motivates us to comeback stronger and do better than before.